Code of Conduct for Be True 2 Me Support Network and Groups

Transgender and Gender Diverse Organisation

Code of Conduct for Be True 2 Me Support Network and Groups

  1. Respect everyone present.  Not everyone shares the same views.  Not everyone comes from the same background.  We offer a safe space, and do not discriminate on the basis of race, ethnic or social origin, gender, sexual orientation, age, disability, religion, socioeconomic status, or any other ground.
  2. Transition is not the same for everyone.  Please respect different choices and different journeys.
  3. We are a combined group of gender identities.  Where appropriate or required, we may separate into focus groups of more specific gender identities (such as Trans Feminine, Trans Masculine and Non-Binary).
  4. WhatsApp Group focus is for Transgender topics, with the discussion being on topic. There is a general chit chat group for broader topics.
  5. Direct contact with anyone, be it in person, social media, instant messaging like WhatsApp is discouraged. Consent is needed from the other person before direct contact is made.
  6. Pictures need to be appropriate and relevant. No unsolicited picture requests are allowed without consent from those involved. Pictures in group chat are discouraged. No images of minors are allowed.
  7. Voice notes should be avoided and only used where applicable, and should be kept short.
  8. English is the language of the organisation, other languages are allowed provided a facilitator is able to understand the language.
  9. In the event of a message, person or conversation being problematic please escalate to the Be True 2 Me number or an admin of the group.
  10. We are all have opinions and experiences, please remember people are sharing their experiences.
  11. You are required to make your self known to the facilitator of a session and encouraged to make your self known to the community and those in the session. If a group admin/facilitator is unable to identify a participant, it may be decided to remove such participant from a session. Please identity yourself with a name in session; please ensure your display name in systems like Zoom display’s your name. i.e. don’t use the default like Zoomuser or AndroidPhone. Please include your pronoun where possible when introducing your self and displaying your pronoun in brackets after your name.
  12. Medical knowledge shared, unless by a certified medical professional is to be considered binding. It should be note that certified medical professionals may not agree. Always double check with a medical professional if you are in doubt. Any medical condition should be diagnosed by a professional, including pain. There is “growing pain” during transition that is normal, knowing the difference can be complex. The community can share their experience but please always check with a professional.
  13. Topic are chosen by the team, if possible, a topic may be changed at request of the group. If you would like to discuss a particular topic, please send a WhatsApp message to Be True 2 Me, post a message on the Be True to Me Community Facebook page (for contact information, please visit our website: www.betrue2me.org). Please allow timeous feedback as preparation takes time and topics are covered in various formats.
  14. The identity of all people is strictly confidential. This includes those participating in any Be True 2 Me activity regardless of the form, be it virtual (online), social media or physical (in person).  Please do not disclose anyone’s identity without their consent.
  15. No photographs, videos, or sound recordings of events/meetings (virtual or in person) are permitted.  If anyone wishes to electronically document a group session for their personal use, they must obtain permission from EVERYONE in attendance.
  16. Certain Be True 2 Me events may be recorded. This will be made known before hand, if you do not wish to be included, please make this known. You may be encouraged to switch off your video feed and/or alter your display name.
  17. You are welcome to make written notes, but please do not disclose anyone’s personal information or story to a third person (someone outside the group) without consent.
  18. Minors (under the age of 18) must obtain written consent from a parent / guardian / caregiver in order to attend support group meetings. Where possible, a parent / guardian / caregiver should accompany minors to support group meetings.
  19. If anyone feels that a conversation is inappropriate or risks triggering trauma, they may excuse themselves from the conversation, or tell the facilitator that they are uncomfortable with the topic.
  20.  The group facilitator is responsible for ensuring that the group is run according to the code of conduct.  The facilitator is therefore entitled to make decisions and requests in line with the code of conduct, to ensure that everyone’s rights are respected and that meetings proceed in an orderly way.
  21.  If anyone has a complaint regarding a support group, they can contact either the Be True 2 Me Exco Management Team, or follow the Be True 2 Me grievance process (contact details are available on our website).
  22.  Support group members are not authorized to speak to the media or third parties on behalf of Be True 2 Me.  Only authorised spokespersons are allowed to represent Be True 2 Me in the media.  However, support group members are welcome to acknowledge Be True 2 Me or say that they belong a support group in their public or private communications.  We also offer a blog space on our website, where you can tell your story or air your personal views (www.betrue2me.org).